Here’s an article I wrote for the Finding Hope Community Organization. What a great honor and privilege to be asked to write something for them. It’s also on their website http://findinghopecommunity.com if you are a member of their community.
The Art of Setting Goals by Jeff Jones
It appears to me that somewhere along this journey, goal setting became stressful, hard work, judgmental and no fun. The irony being that many goals that are set by people often involve reducing stress in their lives.
I look at goals as fun, easy and always evolving/changing. For example, say I set a goal on January 1st like many folks do. It’s a goal for something I think I want to do down the road. So then aren’t I allowed in February or March to alter that goal if something in my life has changed or if my journey has changed? I’ll give you a personal example… last October I set a goal for myself to get a certain strength certification.. level 2 of it actually. It’s now January and I decided that it was more important for my business in the long run to get my massage license. I haven’t written off my strength certification, however, I have changed it’s priority in my life at this moment. When I finish massage school in June, my priorities might change again and thus, I will most likely adjust my list of goals. What I won’t do is call myself a failure because of something I said last October now knowing what was ahead of me. Here’s my approach on setting goals:
- Set yourself up for a “win” with your goal. Who cares what others think as it’s YOUR goal for YOU.
- Be gentle and kind with yourself.
- Give yourself permission to change your goal (s) or re-prioritize them.
- “Failures are success” in my world. So if you are going to label it as a failure, take a moment and learn from it and perhaps come up with your next goal differently.
- Baby steps. Instead of setting one BIG goal, set shorter or smaller goals and perhaps that will lead you to the end goal you had in mind.
I’ve been a movement specialist/trainer since January 2006 and this is what pays the bills. I’m a single parent and that’s my job. I believe in supporting people, not helping them. If you’d like to know more about my credentials, my website is www.trainwithjeff.com